To Know , that you KNOW..

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When you meet your soul mate, you don't recognize the face. You don't walk up to that person and know by looking at that person he or she is your soul mate. Many times you are brought together by circumstances that seem like coincidence. It's about a feeling of being awakened. For me, I was totally taken off guard and, at first, was totally thrown off balance...like the rug had been pulled from under my feet. It is like you were asleep until you were touched by that kindred soul and then you are awakened and nothing is ever the same again. You now know that life before was not life but a dim existence and that up until that touch life was OK. If your feelings are so intense that it scares you and you run away, it won't last. I tried it. It felt great but it was also scary. I had never felt like that before with anyone...ever. There will be no denying it; you won't be able to get this person out of your mind and your heart. He or she is part of you now and nothing will change it. The thought of them will send chills down your spine. You'll know that even if you are apart trying to deny the feeling NOTHING that happens will change the way you feel.  Being in their presence will give you a feeling that is unparalled. This person never leaves your thoughts or your heart. It will feel like that person is somehow imprinted into you now. A part of you that will remain no matter what. I believe that soul mates exist on a higher level of love. There is a strong connection that is present that is simply just there. You can almost communicate with that person without even speaking. You cannot always be with your soul mate either which can seem like a really cruel joke or something. Your soul mate may be married or there may be other circumstances where you cannot be together. In this situation, life can be quite miserable but you can
learn to live with it. I am trying to do that now. However, it is not easy at all. There is a strong sadness and feeling of emptiness if you cannot be with your soul mate. There have been many times that I wished I never met my soul mate but it was never up to me. It just happened like it was something that was supposed to happen even though we cannot be together. It is very difficult for me to understand that and I question why I had to meet this person that I cannot be with. Fortunately, for me, I am very busy and that helps some but sometimes I get this sinking feeling and almost physically sick at the thought of not being with this person  . Even though I cannot be with my soul mate as a partner, I was able to be around him on a regular basis for a while. Just being around him was better than not seeing him at all. It is very difficult and there are days that I feel like a part of me has died. The lights have been dimmed. I've always been an upbeat person in general but there is a sadness that seems to hang over me many days even though most people don't know it. I've
gotten pretty good at hiding it from strangers and co-workers . You will absolutely know without a doubt when you meet your soul mate. You may not know immediately what is happening but trust me, it won't take long and you will know. For me, I was not even looking or thinking along the lines of meeting someone, especially in the situation that I was in when I met mine. I felt kind of emotionally ambushed but it felt really good. I will never be the same as I was before. I am happy that I  recognised my soulmate and I am sad that I don't get to spend as much  time as I need to  .  

Maybe someday it'll happen. Also I've accepted that it may not.

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First off, how do I know? Well the short answer is that as soon as I connected with this person it was as if I had known them forever and the first meeting was like reconnecting with my closest dearest. This person knew me better than any other individual has in this life time so far, without time to get to know
me in this life time. And I believe the reverse was true as well. We were both asking the question, ‘What gives’?

I have known some soul mates that have found one another to do things like finish one another’s sentences immediately or be able to offer deep comfort first meeting. Upon finding this person You will probably feel compelled to know them better and to find out what makes him or her seem so familiar.

Not every coming together of two spirits is as enjoyable as reconnecting souls that have loved somewhere else in another space time continuum. Sometimes You are drawn to a person and there is an instant dislike and You are just like a moth drawn to the light. This type of attraction is more likely about karmic debt (karmic debt can also show up in enjoyable connections as well), that one or both of You are in need of tending to. It probably does not indicate that the two of You are just two souls that have played and danced together and continue to come together in more than one lifetime for the pure joy of it.

The challenge comes when I ask myself what to do with this information and this intimately desired connection. Are we to be friends, lovers, partners in life, or just passing by one another to remind us of the joy that can be experienced in dancing with another. Is there another way we can support one another
on our respective paths?

In my mind I know, I do not know this person on an earth level in this life time and yet I have come into contact with them here, on earth, in this life time. What for? Am I supposed to create something with this person in this lifetime? Is there a specific reason I came together with this person?

Are they here to cause me to re evaluate my life and beliefs? Do we have something we are supposed to do together or learn from one an other? Is it even an intentional thing? What have I been focusing on creating in my life that would cause this connection to happen in my life at this time?

What if the person that showed up in my life, a soul mate is unwilling to recognize the connection and chalks it up as imagination?

If Your life has room to fit this person in the way You feel is right for You, easily, then the questions diminish greatly. It is when You have commitments to others, that are real to You, and things do not seem to jive, that it starts getting trickier if You are not grounded.

With out being really honest with yourself and the persons around You this kind of connection could even be destructive so…

1) Listen to your guides and move forward at a pace that works for You. Find ways to get to know one another in this life time just as You would any other soul in physical form.

2) Ask for spiritual guidance in releasing the energy of other life times, so You can be clear in this one. When You allow a past/concurrent life to bring a soul mate to You it has done what it was meant to do, help You recognize one another.

3) The next step might be for the two of You to decide individually (and possibly together) which way the connection is best going to serve You.  Listen for the inspired knowing and actions that come with this gift.

4) By listening to and integrating the reality of your life and the spiritual guidance that You receive there will be a successful recognition of this gift across the dimensions and You will know what the two spirits in these physical bodies are meant to do with one another this time around. Be open to all the different ways You might be able to support one another in this life time.

5) What ever else comes of this re connection use the feelings of joy, recognition, and excitement to create what You desire in your life.

This can be an amazing experience and one I hope everyone allows themselves sometime in each life time. It isn’t always easy to accept that which we can not measure, verify or even understand.

 It takes a level of trust in the mystery of life and in one’s self to allow this kind of connection to blossom.

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    You cannot fail.  Everyone around you is a soulmate.  The more difficult they are, the more they have something to teach you, so the more important a soulmate they are.  Relationship is work, not a walk in the park.

        If you are looking for the “love at first sight” or the strong attraction, know that most attractions like that are Eros, or Lust at first sight.  This usually dissipates after 3 months.  This attraction is felt with the lower part of the body.  True soul connections are usually felt in the Third Eye and sometimes in the Heart, because True Love is not a sexual thing.  Listen to your chakras; they tell you who is for real.  If all else fails, use your “gut”, the “power chakra”, to give you the truth.

       There are “Twin Flames”.  That is, there are soulmates who are meant to accompany you once you have done your job on earth and no longer need to return.  The Twin Flame will come to you if you are firmly monogamous, are on your “life path”, and are devoted to your destiny.  They are truly your “other half”, here to accompany you on Ascension, when two become one.  The really are more of a duplicate, but their gender is complementary to yours.  The Twin Flame doesn’t come unless you “get yourself right”, because they will not fill up your holes or make you complete.  They are simply your equal; the opposite gender.  If you have stuff to work on, they will not arrive until one of you is good with YOURSELVES.  When you see people who are easy together, even after many years, you know they are Twin Flames.  These relationships are rare, but they are what we are all seeking.  That is why the true path to the Twin Flame is personal growth.

        There are certain people who you meet many lifetimes in an attempt to square a situation.  They are indeed major soulmates.  Many times, one soulmate has evolved more along the spiritual path than another.  There will be many opportunities given for this relationship to grow.  You recognize these relationships, because they usually are long term relationships where you can’t quite “get it right”.  It may take your whole life for this relationship to get right, because one or the other person needs to grow or go on their own path alone, in order to find their way back to you.  Make no mistake; they may indeed be your soul mate or even unevolved Twin.  

    
 We sometimes have more attraction for specific people…sometimes these are      people we knew in other lifetimes.  Sometimes they are people who grew up in similar energies, and so you recognize each other by that energy. (similar parts of the country, or similar life family situations)  Sometimes you literally grew up in the same energies, because you are the same generation.  Astrology recognizes this as being obvious, which is why astrology is good for predicting chemistry.


    It is said ,you have 144 soulmates who are parts of the same soul-spark as you.  This means they have similar energies, and you will recognize it when you are around them.

 Soulmates come in all shapes and sizes, and can be friends, foes, or family!

Edgar Cayce defined soul-mates as, "Those of any sect or group where there is the answering of one to another...or in any such where they are a compliment one of another -- that is what is meant by soul-mate.  Not that as from physical attraction, but from the mental and spiritual help." 

   Soul mates are not necessarily twin souls, for there is only one individual soul, but rather two souls inextricably linked, who have traveled together and known each other for lifetimes upon lifetimes.  Soul mates do not necessarily have to be romantic in nature, nor does the soul mate relationship have to involve any sexual connotation or sexual act.  Soul mates can just as well be tight-bonded friends, or two family members who are uncompromisingly close.

   However, it is our common belief that our soul mate is our romantic equivalent, the "one" with whom we were meant to be and for whom we are destined.  This too can be true. How do we recognize our romantic soul mate?  Is it possible to miss our soul mate altogether? 

   You will encounter your soul mate in this lifetime.  You and your soul mate decided this before you incarnated on this earth plane.  It was your plan to meet up somehow, someway, even if for a brief time only; to make a lasting contact, fulfilling your mutual desire.  It is important to realize, however, that soul mate relationships do not come in standard shapes and sizes.  To place expectations and descriptions on the soul mate experience is to sometimes cancel it out entirely.  If we expect our experience to look a particular way, we may never recognize it when at last it materializes. 

   The idea of having a soul mate is not unlike the popular notion that we incarnate in soul groups.  The people most present in your life now most likely chose to be, as you chose to be with them, as well.  This can include parents, siblings, certain significant friends and acquaintances, sometimes even pets.  There are layers to soul groups, as well.  There is an inner nucleus, made up of a handful of deeply familiar souls, with the soul mate being centric at one point or another.  The inner nucleus operates like a close knit family, while reserving their own distinct and individual aspects.  There are others in the soul group as well, on the outer periphery, yet very close to the inner nucleus.  They know (and often love deeply) the souls in the nucleus very well and have met up with them in many incarnations before.  (Think of past lovers who didn't work out, but with whom you shared a significant bond.)  Beyond this inner periphery is another layer made up of familiar souls we have encountered many times before, but who have different earth plane experiences which seem to run in tandem with ours.  We may encounter them briefly, or they may be around intermittently, but they are never really part of the inner nucleus, or even those on the periphery.  (Think of friends you have a blast with, but with whom you  never share a significant experience or attachment.)

   Again, at one point or another, the soul mate becomes centric in a person's inner nucleus. The term one point or another is used because it is not predetermined that the soul mate necessarily will stay for long periods of time.  Sometimes the soul mate in question is too passionate, too reckless, too distracted by karmic issues.  The other soul cannot navigate around them, yet they love them always, despite being unable to abide their presence (or vice verse). The connection never dies, however.  The relief comes in knowing that the love for the other soul will travel into the next life, and into all shared lives after that.  There is hope that enlightenment and progression will occur, and that  perhaps in a life yet to come both souls can share a better experience. 

   It is interesting to note, as well, that one of the soul mates can refuse incarnation, while the other one chooses to go forward.  In this scenario the soul mate that remains behind is a constant guiding force to the one who has incarnated, often visiting in dreams and at meditation times, as well as offering advice and counsel such as a spirit guide would.  The soul mate on the "other side" takes a vested, proactive interest in the incarnated partner, and often is much more present and accessible than a standard spirit guide might be. 

   One should not lament the fact that they have not yet encountered their soul mate.  It will happen, if it hasn't already.  The most telling clue in recognizing your soul mate is the frenetic psychic activity that accompanies the experience.  Thinking the other's thoughts.  Finishing their sentences.  Intuiting their moods.  Always thinking of them.  Thinking of them when they are thinking of you.  A passionate, unstoppable need which is hard to be explained, yet a very distinct and magnetic urge. 

   On the other hand, it may be that you have already encountered your soul mate, but did not recognize the experience.  If this might be you, try to sit down and contemplate your life a bit.  Think back to when you were a child, in school, and to when you were an adolescent.  Think of all the friends you made, the romantic partnerships you encountered.  Write down these names and any compelling attributes to the relationship which you still remember.  Then think further to your early adult life and beyond, continuing to write all the names, considering them carefully.  Does any person stand out?  Is there a fluttering in your chest when your eyes skip over a particular name?  If so, attempt to meditate on the name of that person, on the attributes and facets of him or her which you remember.  What made the connection so profound?  Do any of the examples given above (on how to recognize your soul mate) apply to the relationship in question?  It could be that you have known and loved your soul mate already.  This can be a relief for many, giving them permission to stop the search and be content with their life.  

The lesson is, wait without waiting.  Every so often, you can give them an opportunity to come your way. 
If they continue to rebuff you, believe them that they are not ready, and move along.  

They may never be ready in this lifetime.  (Many times, one or the other is a spiritual teacher—and I don’t mean literally, but they are.)

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